EMOTIONALISM VS EGOISM

When a man and a woman tie the knot in marriage, it is a coming together of two opposite personalities. A woman tends to be emotional, while a man tends to be egoistic. These traits are a part of their nature.

There are positive and negative aspects to both these traits. If they are used positively, they will be a boon to humanity. But if they are put to harmful use, it will be a bane for humanity.

The positive aspect of egoism in man is that it is one of the driving forces in working steadfastly for a cause. A man bereft of this quality will be weak, lacking in willpower, and fail to accomplish any task requiring determination and perseverance. But the negative aspect is that it will make him arrogant. Therefore, one must be very careful and not allow one’s ego to sway one towards the negative side, as this would be counterproductive.

Similarly, a woman tends to be on the emotional side. This trait too has its positive as well as its negative aspects. The positive aspect is that she tends to be more sensitive and, therefore, more gentle and compassionate, which is, without doubt, a positive quality. But the negative aspect is that it can give her an obstinate personality, thus making her stubborn even when a flexible approach is necessary. If a woman allows this aspect of her nature to go unchecked, it will be detrimental to the wholesome development of her personality.

A man and a woman should understand the natural traits they are born with. They must consciously strive to use their positive aspects and sedulously refrain from taking any negative course. The secret of success in both men and women lies in this self-control.