Adjustment means living with a normal mind in an unwanted situation. Adjustment is a way of life. Apparently, adjustment is a behaviour that you adopt towards someone else, but in fact it is for your own self. The problem is that according to the creation plan of God, every human being is Mr Different and Ms Different. Also, everyone has freedom of choice. In such a situation, every human being is compelled to live in a world of differences. We cannot change this creation plan. Thus, the only realistic option is to adjust with other people. In such a situation, adjustment means not to react, not try to change others, not feel disgusted, not become negative, but to manage the situation smoothly. It is this law of nature that is mentioned in the Quran in these words: "Settlement is the best" (4:128). In every situation you have two options: either adjust with others or opt for no adjustment. If you opt for no adjustment, then the result would be negative. You'll live in tension, disturbance of mind and end up wasting your time and energy. But, if you opt for adjustment, then you are instantly able to free up your mind. You are able to save yourself from all kinds of negativity. Adjustment is not a submissive attitude, it is an attitude of wisdom. It is the same principle which everyone follows when they are on the street. On the street, there is traffic on both sides. So, everyone opts for the keep right or keep left rule. This is the way of adjustment. If you refuse to follow this traffic culture, you will face a disastrous situation, even death. Adjustment gives you a chance to continue your journey. While the policy of no-adjustment is bound to halt your life's journey, either temporarily or in a permanent manner.
A person told me that he had a long married life with two children. Then he had a fight, and it was decided that one child would stay with him and another with his wife. Now he is living separately from his wife. Both took house loan and car loan, and began to live separately. I realized that both husband and wife were not ready to live by adjusting with each other. But both of them adjust with their boss in the companies in which they work. Because of not adjusting at home, they chose to separate. But both of them are adjusting with their bosses. This is not a simple matter. It means that they couldn’t follow adjustment as a principle. They follow it out of hypocrisy. Had they accepted adjustment as a principle of life, they would have adjusted with their spouse at home and also at office with their boss or colleague. They would have accepted adjustment as a principle. They couldn’t adjust at home, but are adjusting in their company. This is a very dangerous matter. They are developing a weak personality. They don’t have principle-based personality. They have a hypocritical personality. Is this a worthy life?
People are unable to understand that if they adjust at home, even then the formula of adjustment is a great principle to follow. They are not ready to adjust at home, but they do adjust in their companies. This is hypocrisy. Due to lack of intellectual development they are unable to understand this issue. Many people adopt certain formula out of hypocrisy although they don’t adopt this formula in principle. This is a great loss and I have termed it intellectual starvation.
